Roundabout

Close to where I live, new roundabouts are popping up. Have you been impacted by one yet?I was first introduced to roundabouts several years ago when I visited my brother Jayson in Manchester, England. There, at most intersections, roundabouts were present, and people seemed very comfortable maneuvering around them. When I inquired, Jayson informed me that roundabouts had been shown …

The Surprise Equation

Have you experienced the effectiveness of this surprise equation in dealing with people?                                                          Lower volume + slower speech = better communication.The natural tendency for people, when they get agitated or angry when talking, is to …

That Smell

My friend Debbie shared this reeky story: Before daybreak one morning this week, she took her dog for a walk. Suddenly, the dog broke loose and dashed off into the dark woods. Debbie called, and called, and waited. Finally, her dog returned, but, when he got closer, she could smell…….the unmistakable smell of a skunk spray on the dog. Ugh…….poor …

I’m Fine Thank You

How often have others responded to your question, “How are you?” with the answer, “I’m fine, thank you.”? Is this how you generally answer when you are asked the question?Recently, my wife and I were in a doctor’s office reception area. As the nursing assistant came to take folk in for their appointment, her first question was, “How are you?” …

Your Problems

Quite often someone tells me, “I wish I didn’t have that problem.” They want to move away, run from a situation, change connections or relationships, or close their eyes, wishing the problem would pass. In time they learn that escapism provides no long-term escape. In life, you can be overcome by problems. Those overcome by problems get bitter, dejected, angry, …

High Thinking

You probably resonate with me in this: Shortly after waking up in the morning, my mind revs up to consider all that’s ahead that day – the appointments to keep, assignments to complete, annoyances to avoid, accolades to receive, adversaries to confront, etc., etc. Such mental gymnastics causes stress to rise, affecting my physical, mental, and emotional well-being for the …

For the Good of Those Who Love

Romans 8:28 This verse tells us that “all things work together for the good of those who love God.” If we love God, then we live in obedience. The “all things” refers to the providence of God and all the things that relate to Him: His Holy Spirit, His love and mercy, His truths, etc. All of these things come …

The Maze

I don’t know what to do.”“I don’t know where to turn.”“I don’t know about my goals.”Three comments from three different friends this week reminded me of a Pastor Harry Cheales in Gloucestershire, England. Around A.D 1950, Cheales had a dream about the maze of life. He turned the dream into reality in his church garden. The maze was a visual …

Growing Season

It’s that time of the year: The flower beds in front of our house are brimming with exotic colors, thanks to the warming season, great soil, abundant sunshine, adequate water, and . . . . . . . . the absence of unwelcome weeds.Those acquainted with the joys of agriculture are familiar with the challenge of weeds. The usual joke …

Silence

I heard this story at a silence retreat: Four people went on a silence retreat. As the day faded, they decided to light a candle in the room, and meditate in stillness before retiring for the night.A sudden blowing of wind threatened to extinguish the candle. One person reacted instinctively: “O no, the candle is about to go out!”After a minute, the second …